There are many different relationships in your life. For instance a parent and daughter or son, grandparents to grandkids, aunts, uncles, cousins. We also can have girlfriends and boyfriends, platonic or committed, as well as husbands and wives. I would like to take the time to talk about experiences, how to try and keep or get rid of these relationships.

Something important for all of us to remember, boyfriend and girlfriend relationships come and go but friends can stay forever. Friends generally have a lot in common. This goes for guys and girls. If you have friendships you always have someone to talk to or confide in. Friends stand up for each other, a real friend is someone you can laugh and cry with or just hang out with. Just be yourself. People will like you for who you are.  This is the best advice I can give. The friends you make can be with you for the rest of your life and be someone you will always be grateful for.

If you are  involved in a community it’s easier to build friendships. Having a friend is good because it’s a shoulder to lean on and someone to talk to, if you feel like you can’t talk with your parents or immediate family. This is a good way to start making relationships. Here are some steps you should take to try to build a relationship. Always start out as friends, you really need to be friends and get to know each other before it can be more than that.  Make it simple, just go out and have a cup of coffee, hang out, get to know each other. If you want to pursue something more, then go out on a date,  go to the movies or out to dinner.  Relationships take time. Don’t rush into anything. Make sure you  know the person and they know you so that you are never in a dangerous situation.

Some relationships can be abusive, such as a significant other hurting or berating the other person, this is not a healthy relationship.  I suggest if that is happening to you that you RUN and get out of that relationship as quickly as possible. If it is a committed relationship, you can find counseling, sometimes it helps but if it doesn’t,  again it’s a good idea to leave the relationship. Take time to think about yourself and get yourself to the right state of mind. Do something that makes you feel good  about yourself because you are a good person. Do something for yourself before starting a new relationship. “Happiness often sneaks through a door you didn’t know you left open.” Take it slow and easy the way it should be. Don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship and if you don’t want to be in a relationship then stand up for yourself and advocate that you don’t want this. This isn’t for me.

Again, just be yourself. People will like you for who you are.