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Xander Parker
Xander Parker McPherson
Xander Parker McPherson
Xander Parker

On 11/12/12, two months early by emergency c-section, I gave birth to my fiancé and my third child, Xander Parker McPherson. He was born at 12:57 pm, 1.5 pounds and 11.5 inches. The memory of his first glance at me has left an everlasting mark that can never be replaced or forgotten: our baby blew me a "kiss" - he puckered up his lips, sucked in, waved his little arm over his mouth and made the sweetest popping noise. I knew then that our son was something special, some kind of wonderful. XP was diagnosed with trisomy 21, Down syndrome, not too long after he was born - the blood vessels to and from his heart were leaking, he had kidney and liver problems, he had bowel issues, he had many blood transfusions and the list goes on and on. Though he was two months premature in spite of all of these issues Xander pushed on and stayed strong, he proved so many wrong about him, even myself. The doctors told us that they were amazed by his strength and his willpower to live. Xander taught me to hope for the impossible and to keep pushing forward with life, no matter the obstacle and the people who might not believe in you. He truly showed me just how precious life is, and to never take the things I cherish and love for granted. I think the thing about Xander that has left an everlasting mark on my heart, other than the first time I laid eyes on him, would be his many facial expressions. I've never seen such a young tiny baby have so much personality, and boy did XP ever have it! Even when I would hold him, he would try his hardest to look up at me and around at his surroundings, he was so curious. He brought smiles to everyone, even people who have only seen him through photos or who only heard of him. He had so many visitors and people asking about him. That boy was loved by all. Our baby boy passed away, early morning, on 12/8/12. For two days he fought his hardest, but his kidneys couldn't keep going, his little body failed him. Though it still hurts us, more than words can ever describe, we are more than thankful that we got the time we did with our baby boy. I believe things happen and come to you for a reason, and XP gave us a reason, a most wonderful beautiful reason - life! "Though he be but little, he is fierce!"




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tessia summers, United States, WV
2/22/2013 8:04:53 PM
I love ya tiffany and ur story

Samantha doss, United States, WV
2/6/2013 1:19:10 AM
RIP <3

Janice Dollinger, United States, GA
1/31/2013 2:29:00 AM
This story is sad, as little baby Xander went through a lot, while he was here. He fought a battle for quite a long time but he just couldn't keep it up anymore. I know where he is, he is safe & his mommy, daddy, & his brother & sister will be with him one day, in the future. I know how hard it is to lose a sweet little angel but we know that he is over the rainbow, where nothing can hurt him ever. anymore. Xander Patrick, you don't know me but one day you will. Rest in peace little baby boy. I never got to meet you but I am your great=grandmother. Love & kisses, I send to you, & you can sit on a cloud baby, & know I am thinking about you. May everyone who loved Xander, & who went through the hard times, I pray that you go on, & have the good thoughts, as Xander was loved very much, by so many.

Erin Deskins, United States, WV
1/23/2013 9:47:09 PM
Truly a touching story! <3

Tiffany Ward, United States, WV
1/23/2013 10:50:29 AM
Thanks so much everyone! We appreciate all of the beautiful words! Our little boy was truly an amazing little being! xoxo

stephanie hansen, United States, ID
1/23/2013 12:46:45 AM
Your story made me cry. This is inspiring. There aren't really any words... Thank you for sharing this. Just thank you.

Courtney Batchelor, United States, GA
1/23/2013 12:31:07 AM
You were such a strong little boy reading about you from your mommy, I wish I could have met you. Little ones always teach us how to love and not take it for for granted and to cherish what we already have, I know your mommy is very proud of you and always will be

Zane Carmichael, Jamaica,
1/22/2013 10:22:58 PM
Strong little guy, :')

Megan Holt, United States, PA
1/22/2013 9:09:31 PM
The best wishes to two of the best people, Alex and Tiffany. My heart goes with you and wish you the best of the best.

Brittany Coats, United States, GA
1/22/2013 9:00:17 PM
Xander, you are indeed a fighter! I never got to meet you, but you sure do hold a very big, and very special place in my heart. You're beautiful. Spread your wings little Angel, and watch over us down here who can't wait to make it home to you. I can't wait to meet you one day, and to wrap my arms around my Papaw's neck, and to finally get to make jokes with my best friend Austin again. Oh, what a beautiful day that will be.

teresa boyd, United States, WV
1/22/2013 6:50:46 PM
This little man wasn't here for long, but while he WAS here he touched so many people! I'm sad that I never got to meet him, but so thankful that his Mommy shared him with us!

valerie smith, United States, WV
1/22/2013 6:14:15 PM
That was great and touching

Tammy Brotherton, United States, WV
1/22/2013 4:13:00 PM
<3 <3 <3

Nicole Andrade, United States, WV
1/22/2013 3:56:41 PM
<3 Rest in peace sweet baby boy! <3

Samantha Doss, United States, WV
1/22/2013 2:55:19 PM
<3 <3 <3

Megan Brake Located in Point Place, United States, OH
1/22/2013 2:30:04 PM
A beautiful tribute to a most amazingly beautiful little boy. I've followed your story since your mommy told she found out she was having you. You have been an inspiration and a source of hope for many many people, Xander.

chris sherwood, United States,
1/22/2013 9:02:55 AM
touching story

Kristi Adair, United States, GA
1/22/2013 9:02:39 AM
May you rest in peace , my lil XP. Grammie loves you !!!!

Danielle Swearingen, United States, WV
1/21/2013 2:04:52 PM
i know what u are going throw i had my littol boy 9/13/12 and we lost him 10/8/12 it was the hardest thing i ever went throw his kidneys faled i was only 27 weeks whin i had him

latosha richards, United States, AK
1/21/2013 1:47:35 PM
Amazing story

Kristina Lute, United States, WV
1/21/2013 12:30:36 PM
I never got to meet this precious little guy, but have known the parents for a few years now. They are amazing individuals and I can only imagine how amazing little Xander was and still is. He may be an angel watching over us, but his legacy lives on.

elizabeth rose, United States, WV
1/21/2013 12:02:09 PM
So beautiful. :)

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